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What's So Wrong with The Brady Bunch?
By Kimberly Brittingham

Peter Brady got into serious trouble with Dad's tape recorder. He used it as a remote eavesdropping device, tucked beneath beds and hidden in laundry hampers, capturing closed-door confessions and seizing suburban secrets. But by the end of twenty-two minutes, Peter had learned a lesson in respecting the privacy of others. And, to demonstrate their faith in him, Mr. and Mrs. Brady gifted a grateful and humbled Peter with a tape recorder of his very own.

I was eight years old, watching this particular episode of The Brady Bunch from one end of a plush pumpkin-colored sofa, my mother seated on the other. She blew her cigarette smoke abruptly into the air above her head and spat, "Oh, puh-LEEZ! What parent in their right mind would give their kid a tape recorder after he went around the house recording everybody's private conversations? Give me a friggin' break!"

She stood up and left the room in a huff. I heard her squeaky moccasin soles crossing the kitchen linoleum. She would call one of her three older siblings and bitch bitterly about one of her three younger siblings until my stepfather came home from his job search. Then the two of them would go to the golf club for the free buffet, "while our memberships are still good." My younger brother and sister would plead, "But what are we having for dinner?" Inevitably my stepfather would pull a box of Entenmann's doughnuts out of a brown paper bag and toss it onto the counter. "Here."

I remember running after them as they pulled on their jackets and headed for the door. "Mom, Dad, wait. Can I spend the weekend at Elaine Mackey's house? If you drop me off tomorrow morning, Mrs. Mackey says she can bring me home Sunday night."

My mother's expression looked soft enough -- or indifferent enough -- that I thought she just might agree, but my stepfather intervened.

"Who do you think you're kiddin'?" he barked. "Another weekend at a friend's house?" He approached me and thrust a thick, square, accusatory finger in my face. "You just want to stay over your friend's houses to get your hands on the free food." He shook his head. "God dammit, this kid is shrewd."

Flushed with anger and humiliation, I plodded towards my room, contemplating the meaning of "shrewd," and feeling the guilty weight of a six-D-battery, Radio Shack tape recorder left running at the bottom of a laundry hamper, even though there wasn't one.

When I emerged from my room the following morning, I passed my siblings in the hall, the two of them sitting on the carpet in their superhero pajamas.

"Ha, ha. Kim can't go to her girl-friennnnnd's," my brother sing-songed. He passed the back of his hand over his forehead and mockingly squeaked, "Please, please let me go! You never let me go anywhere!"

My three-year-old sister giggled and chimed in. "Ohhhh Kim, you're such a Sarah Burr-hawt."

My brother shoved her roughly onto her side and made her cry. "That's not how you say it, stupid. It's Burr-HART, little miss baby talk!"

On weekday afternoons my mother liked to set up her ironing board in the living room. I sat watching The Brady Bunch cross-legged on the floor, perilously close to the T.V. screen inside its dark, hulking, waxy-wood console. From behind me I could hear the occasional sticky hiss of the spray-starch can, the steamy exhale of the iron, and my mother's voice, punctuating the plot with her snide remarks. "Oh, come ON! What parents sit up in bed at night discussing their kids' problems like that? This show is ridiculous."

It broke my little heart. Why didn't my mother like the Bradys, this family I so adored? She seemed to have a special hatred for Mrs. Brady, which confounded me all the more. After all, they had so much in common. They were both pretty, young-looking mothers with blond hair and blue eyes; Mrs. Brady's first name was Carol, and that was my mother's middle name; and "Hey," I realized aloud. "Mom, you and Mrs. Brady have both been married before!"

"Shhhhh!" my mother's head snapped up in a panic. "Don't let your brother and sister hear you say that!"

I was confused. I needed to know why.

"Because they don't know I was married before. You're old enough to remember your aunts and uncles talking about it, but the younger ones never have to know. Besides, it was a long time ago. I was very young. Don't ever say a word about it again!"

Now it's true that once Mike and Carol Brady left their wedding behind them, they never again spoke of their former spouses, ever. But I couldn't recall Mrs. Brady hushing up her former marriage in such a wild-eyed panic.

For a time, my mother's annoyance with The Bradys did rub off on me. I was at an age when I still viewed my mother as wise and all-knowing, intimidating in stature and awesome in age. I was wondrously impressed that she'd been alive to witness the introduction of television itself! And I wanted this superhuman figure to approve of me, like me, even love me -- so I emulated her. My face contorted with disbelief when Peter defended Cindy's lisp before the relentlessly teasing Buddy Hinton. After all, the scenario was so unrealistic. My mother and I both thought it ludicrous when the Brady kids banded together to win a talent contest; we clucked our tongues in irritation when they united to scare away a potential buyer for the Brady house. I snorted at the absurdity of Marcia's bulbous, swollen "football nose" and Peter's bookish "twin" Arthur. I grew annoyed with all those gingerly knocks on Dad's study door. After all, how many Dads had a study, anyway?

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