by Lisa Cholodenko
was sitting with my pop in this coffee shop watching him eat French toast.
shouldn't, he said. It's really not very intelligent with my cholesterol and all.
ask him the number.
It's down to 230 or something.
But I take that medication.
Lipitor? I ask.
He looks caught. Not quite ashamed. Just kind of like a cheater.
Yeah, I know
I think, yeah, you're right. You
shouldn't be eating that sugar-coated, egg- soaked, white-bread, deep-fried in
butter and drowned in syrup. You may as well be injecting plaque into your heart.
And then what about your weight? I mean, come on. You're thick and you know it.
You're stout. You might even be heavy. When was the last time your shoes looked
big on your feet?
I should be eating what you got, he says. Let me taste
I give him a bite of my oatmeal.
That's delicious, he says,
like he almost means it.
Yeah. I'm thinking. I'm on the high road. All
that self-control, reflected in a big bowl of steaming gruel. A touch of brown
sugar, a few raisins, a dash of steamed soymilk. That's the way to go. Not quite
what you've got going--I say with a hint of superiority--but a healthy alternative.
And it's tasty too.
Yeah, he says. He pauses for a minute and considers
my bowl. Then he goes back to his French toast, gracefully cutting slices into
petite bites and slowly grazing each unit across the thick trail of glistening
I watch him thinking, I know. You're an older guy, slowing down
in the take-control department. But it's not hard to make the right choice, do
the right thing. You don't have to let it all go to shit just because you're turning
75. Keep yourself together, you hedonist. Eat right for god's sake. Don't you
care that your gut's bulging? Don't you care that you're on Lipitor? Don't you
care that the price you pay for each bite of that egg-fried, sugar-soaked, white-bread
could possibly be a day of your life? Man, where's your self-respect?
I am sitting alone in the coffee shop. The waitress has just placed my piping
hot shelf of French toast down before me and I cut into the glistening slices
with the abandon of a six-year-old. Placing the steaming morsels into my mouth
I feel like I've landed in a poppy field. With every delivery I experience an
ethereal sort of ecstasy; every taste is perfection: the eggs have soaked the
bread tenderly; the butter and egg have merged into delicately fried glaze; the
syrup has melted into the toast's pores creating a complete harmony of flavor.
The sliced strawberries on top-inexplicably right. Everything blends, the unification
of opposites, perfection: sweet and savory, firm and soft, light and heavy, piping
warm deliciousness. The syrupy French toast melts over my tongue, oozes into my
taste buds, careens into my senses and hits my brain like a fast dose of dopamine.
I am transported, I am beside myself. My pace quickens, I shovel quicker, I cannot
get it through fast enough. I am almost frenzied. I am practically inhaling my
French toast now. I am in a whirl of delight. I am one with my toast. I am toasted.
suddenly the pleasure shifts. With each moist bite, a creepy self-loathing seeps
in. I am weighted by worry, anxiety, shame. I am no longer thinking about the
golden deliciousness that is my French toast. I am no longer analyzing the complex
brilliance of its texture and taste. I am now wondering what's wrong with me.
What does it mean that for the past three weeks I've woken up each morning with
a compulsion for French toast? Is this my father's fault? Is it the power of suggestion?
Is it in the genes? Should I tell him? Share my disgrace? I keep shoveling and
with each new mouthful I wonder: Will he look at me? Estimate my fleshy body?
Will he consider my fame up and down and pointedly remind me how delicious the
oatmeal was that morning in April; how better people make better choices; how
real women don't eat like men, don't eat things that make them fat; don't eat
a whole plate of French toast? A bite or two maybe. A half-order. But a whole
plate? No. Never. No way. I push another bite through the syrup, stab a strawberry
and plunk it in my mouth. I chew rapidly, swallow guiltily. Jesus, what kind of
slovenly pig have I become? How did this happen? Where did I get this amnesia?
How could I have forgotten the horror of the scale this morning? I imagine the
day when I'll have to shop in the Fat Ladies store, wear a muumuu, stop climbing
steps, get knee replacements. I take another bite. I must switch medication, up
the medication, get more serotonin, get more sleep, and lay off the red wine.
What's wrong with me? Am I falling into a depression? Why do I need this white
bread, this egg coating, this syrup? Why am I ravenous for these carbs! This sugar!
This poison! Am I going insane? Is there something I haven't told someone? Am
I overwhelmed? Underwhelmed? Avoiding? What is it? What am I avoiding? Am I a
train wreck? Am I a slob? Why don't I get off my lazy ass and exercise? I have
to go home and walk the dog. I'll walk the dog up the hill. Straight up the hill.
I'll walk the dog four pieces of French toast worth. Man, oh man, get a grip,
start again tomorrow. How could you have let yourself become such a groveling
slave to French toast? It's just French toast for fuck's sake! Get your fat ass
out of this coffee shop and start that fucking script!
wipe the syrup from my mouth and push the empty plate away. Has anyone paid attention
to the time? Has the 94-pound waitress considered that I sat down at this table
less than 20 minutes ago and that I am now completely done with my breakfast?
Does everyone around me know that I've sat down, ordered, been served and eaten
my stack of French toast in the time it's taken them to read the menu? Is there
a collective pity around me? An avoidance of eye contact? An impossible sadness
over my condition?
have just completed week one of the South Beach diet.
The author of the
book tells me I can never eat white bread again.
I can never eat maple
I can never fry my food again.
And the longer I allow
my body to detox from these hideously artery-clogging, blood-sugar antagonizing,
mood-disorder inducing, obesity-causing vices, the less I will desire them until
I desire them not at all.
What a crock of shit.
There is no way
in hell I will never desire French toast. If that South Beach guy is telling me
I should never again put a golden brown piece of the stuff to my lips, he's just
totally off. Who coined that stupid term "body image" anyway? Who's
in charge here? What's wrong with a muumuu? I hate this diet. I hate rolling up
my turkey in a piece of lettuce. I hate pretending that mashed cauliflower tastes
like mashed potatoes. I hate eating eggs without toast. I hate Jello. I want a
Martini. I want a big goblet of potato-derived vodka with a greasy olive on a
stick. I want not to care. I want French toast. There has to be an in between.
Is that called temperance? Or is that denial? Fuck. I don't think this is about
French toast at all.
know Father's Day is coming up. Maybe I'll call my pop and see if he wants to
meet up at the Coffee Shop. Maybe he'll order the French toast. Maybe he'll ask
me to share it. Will I decline? Should I? Should I tell him my story? Should I
tell him he set a bad example; tempted me; turned me on; got me hooked, drove
me to it? Or should I say nothing and order my bald eggs. Probably. That's what
I should do. My dad should enjoy that French toast. He should relish the bounty
of every gorgeous bite. Why sully his pleasure with my pain? Why suppose my vice
is his vise? Why worry about his waistline, his cholesterol, his years left on
this earth? Why not enjoy these moments together? Focus on what's good? Focus
on what I love about him? Like the way he eats his French toast. The way he enjoys
it so. Why not put the critic away? Take the kinder-gentler route. The kinder-gentler
route. The kinder-gentler route. I guess if I took the kinder-gentler route with
him, I could use it on me. Maybe that's the ticket. Maybe I'll just have a bite.
Maybe two. Maybe I'll even split it. Not quite ashamed. Just kind of like a cheater.
Just kind of like him.
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